Femdom & Findom

Original written by Monica on FetLife April 19, 2025:

It’s important that you remember: your submission to Me is a privilege, not a right. While I will cherish true submission, I will also be quick to call out careless behaviours.

This guide has been created for those interested in serving Me in an ongoing dynamic - not just a session here and there, which can be - and must be - booked [here].

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I will start by sharing My Domination Style:

Consider Me a Sensual Primal Sadist x Lifestyle Coach / BDSM Mentor who loves turning you into My little plaything. I can be commanding and strict or playful and teasing or alluring and seductive to get what I want from you.

I truly am multi-faceted as a Domme. My style is a blend of:

• Psychological Domination: I get into your mind, exposing your desires, weaknesses, and edges. Then I play with them, intuitively and deliberately.

• Sadistic Elegance: I am cruel in ways that will make you thank Me. I'll draw out your deep-seated desires and transmute them into worship and obedience.

• Seductive Control: I love to tease and manipulate with My silky voice, sultry body, and sharp intellect. My presence alone will make you ache to serve Me.

• Ritual & Discipline: My Dominance is often wrapped in ritual, which furthers the power exchange. I will hold you to high standards.

• Transformational Power: I push you towards deeper self-awareness and greater heights in a holistic sense, which will benefit U/us both.

I am a psychological force, a seductive mirror, and a demanding presence that strips you bare and rebuilds you - all in devotion to Me. I'll make you crave My approval, fear My disappointment, and never want to leave.

Besides, why would you mess up such an opportunity when the most devoted of submissives get to experience ALL of Me.

I am so worth it though. And you know it.

So, let's dive into My expectations further, shall W/we?

Here are My expectations for those who serve Me:

1. Titles & Address

Refer to Me as Princess Monica or Princess always. Goddess is also permitted, and Master may be used, with permission, by the most devoted slaves. Mistress is not acceptable and will be punished. As well, remember that you are speaking to a Dominant. Be respectful, courteous, and humble.

2. Hierarchy of Needs

There is a sacred order you must understand when serving Me (or any Dominant, for that matter):

1. My needs

2. your needs

3. My wants

4. your wants – considered only as earned rewards.

I am committed to ensuring that there is respect, safety, consent, and trust between U/us prior to either of O/our kinks being satisfied.

3. Consent, Safety & Boundaries

Consent and autonomy are sacred in My world - I follow PRICK and CCCC (yes, you should look these up if you're unfamiliar with them). I will always respect your limits and expect full mutual awareness of boundaries.

Prior to engaging in any sort of kink play, I will always go over your limits and safety protocols (I follow the traffic light system), but it is expected that you have a basic understanding of any kinks you are interested in exploring with Me.

4. Communication & Confidentiality

I expect open and honest communication always - even when the conversation might be difficult. I am committed to providing a safe space for My submissives to be able to openly share and express themselves without fear of retaliation (in a non-kink sense).

As well, given the sensitive and intimate nature of a dynamic, it's expected that W/we both maintain discretion and confidentiality, not sharing personal details or information about each other without explicit consent.

5. Service & Devotion

I expect you to serve, pamper, spoil, and worship Me consistently (in a mutually agreed upon way) through words of affirmation, gift giving*, and acts of service. I will typically give / reward you with words of affirmation, physical touch, and quality time.

We'll define what this looks like based on your budget, availability, and skillset. I will always take a collaborative and consensual approach here, but truly, what you put into this is what you'll get out of it. And I won't chase you. I have no need.

What does this mean more simply?
Meet My standards and expectations and you'll get to experience the freaky playful deviant side of Princess Monica.

6. Rituals & Discipline

I may implement certain rituals or tasks to deepen your submission and devotion to Me. I expect you to demonstrate obedience, reliability, and consistency as these rituals are proof of your seriousness and anchors of your service to Me.

Be open to non-kinky tasks and rituals that support your personal development. This may include some reading, reflection, or self-discovery practices, or even curious conversation at times. Openness and a growth mindset are attractive.

7. Self-Care

I encourage you to regularly practice physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual self-care. Consider it part of your service since you are no good to Me if you neglect your own wellbeing. These may become ritualistic in our dynamic as well.

While this list is not exhaustive, it should paint a clearer picture of what is expected from anyone interested in becoming one of My submissives.

*Re: monetary tributes and gift giving being part of the dynamic / what I expect from submissives - it is so much more than just "money." It represents appreciation, gratitude, recognition, reparation, power, worship, sacrifice, and more. And it really does turn Me on. Besides, if you were trying to date someone, you would be putting in some effort in this regard anyway. If you want to build something with Me, this is no different.

I'll likely write another post that details the monetary and gift giving aspects further, but this is a starting point.

Now that you know a little more, I look forward to seeing who has what it takes to prove themselves worthy of Me.

xoxo Princess Monica